15. feb, 2021

Happy Valentine? OR not?

Happy Valentine? Or not? I can help you.
 
So what is the value for you to know if you are in a co-dependent relationship but the other partner says it is love. What can you do? Can you see the value of knowing the difference and have coaching, counceilling, therapy from me? How would you feel to sort this out and learning more about the copying strategies? Mail info@piaalife.se
Let say you have a husband with Aspergers and your child is autistic and you cannot communicate with your husband.He is not what you expected. He is neither a dad or husband. What to do? Are you co-dependent in helping because that is a need in you? Buy Learning more skills in autism for dads and mums today for 11.99 Euro and read about the dads reactions, the mums reactions and how to make free time activities with your child instead. If you need counceilling from me then I can make an arrangement with you for a cost.
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Let say you are having parents survived the holo coast and you feel terrible because of the guilt that they survived the concentration camps. They are pushing you to feel sorry for them.What ever you are doing you doesn't understand them enough? Are you co-dependent in this relationship? What can you do? Take counceilling or therapy from me after i know how you feel physically and emotionally. ;mail info@piaalife.se Are you codependent in drugs, alcohol, sex addiction I can help you sort this out.Why your co-dependent in this.
 
  • Also if you have difficulties in a relationship during this Corona, I can help with councelling. Or you have problems with your children with special needs, specially autism. As you could see, I have courses on Udemy. One of them is Learning more skills in autism for moms and dads.There you can see about dads thoughts and mums thoughts.Also examples of activities to make with your kid.
     
  • So if you live in Asia the culture is total different from how we are living in the West. If you have arranged marriage that is very different from the way we are living here. Dating can be to big thing to learn across the cultures. It is evan hard in the west to understand everything. Therefore I wrote and illustrated Love and disconnections.
     
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  • Here in Sweden most young people are having intimicay when they are about 15 years old already. We that have other religions maybe wait longer.
     
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  • I can understand rearranged marriages as I had an orthodox background and ultra ortodox people also have rearranged marriages. They don't marry with other groups. But Swedes in general lives totally free if they are not raised in a christian sect. Muslims are also having their own way of living here.I think this about this in west in general.
     
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  • " Dr. Judith Orloff Are you an empath? A codependent? Or both?
    Empaths can have codependent tendencies but not all codependents are empaths. The difference is that empaths absorb the stress, emotions, and physical symptoms of others, something not all codependents do. However, for both empaths and codependents, setting boundaries and seeing others as separate, not simply an extension of yourself, is also part of healing. You can be a great listener and a loyal friend without taking on someone’s problems or trying to fix them".
     
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    Så på svenska är du en med mycket empati eller är du medberoende eller har en kombination. Som empatisk tar du på dig andras stress och dåliga energier. Som medberoende behöver du inte alls göra detta. Du kan också ha båda egenskaperna. Bra att tänka till i relationer. Vilken roll har du? Har du tex haft föräldrar som varit medberoende eller du varit medberoende av dom kan du vara känslig för detta och välja en liknande relation. Du kan också vara den empatiska som ständigt blir utnyttjad av den som har medberoende. På engelska finns det ett bra ord som jag ännu inte hittad på svenska "energy vampire" energivampyrer är ofta medberoende eller gör andra medberoende och som kan andra tilläggsdiagnoser komma på. Narcissm och mycket svåra kombinationer. Jag har också gått kurs att hjälpa de med medberoende problematik.
    Du bör själv känna efter innan du arbetar med detta om du har föräldrar som du är/varit medberoende av deras lidande i koncentrationsläger som är starkt triggat. Det kan vara starkare än att ha föräldrar som varit alkoholberoende eller haft andra missbruk. Därför dras man till energivampyrer och de som suger energi och gör dig till medberoende av att hjälpa dom alldeles för mycket. Hur är det med dig? Det är inte en kärlekshandling. Att alltid få skuld över att ens föräldrar, anhörig lider mer än en själv och hela tiden göra dem till lags är inte en kärlekshandling. Det är medberoende och destruktivt. Tvärtom!!!!
     
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    "Dr Judith Orloff" The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People (pp. 57-61). "Empaths commonly self-medicate the discomfort of being overstimulated by turning to alcohol, drugs, sex, food, gambling, shopping, or other addictions. Why are empaths so susceptible to these behaviors? We can get overwhelmed by our extreme sensitivity and “feel too much,” including our own and another’s pain. Since we may not know how to manage this sensory overload, we numb ourselves to shut off our thoughts and feelings, to diminish the empathy we experience—though not everyone is aware of this motivation. Since research has shown that painkillers such as Tylenol can decrease empathy, perhaps this is a subconscious draw for empaths to abuse them. Many of the patients I’ve treated who were in recovery from addictions have been empaths. This may help explain why sensitive people reach for painkillers, including alcohol, over-the-counter drugs, and prescription medications. In my workshops and private practice, empaths who have struggled with addictions have needed to learn ways to center and protect themselves instead of self-medicating in this unhealthy way. One woman said to me, “For years I used alcohol to bury my feelings. I love rodeos but couldn’t go to one without drinking. Being around crowds felt painful. Once I learned to protect myself, I could feel safe and have fun without drinking.” Another man drank heavily when he traveled, but once he learned to protect himself, he realized, “I don’t have to let everyone’s energy wear at me and drink at an airport bar just to cope.” Although some components of addiction are genetic and environmental (such as being raised by alcoholic parents), being an empath can play a significant role. We pay a high price for coping with our sensitivities through addictions. They exhaust our body, mind, and spirit, creating illness, depression, and more anxiety as we try to manage an overstimulating world. At best, addictions only provide short-term relief from sensory overload, but in the long term, they stop working and worsen the feeling of being overwhelmed. In Native American tradition, it’s believed that alcoholics and addicts leave themselves vulnerable to being possessed by negative forces because the substances keep them from being in touch with their spirits and bodies, making it easy for negativity to take hold. That’s the last thing any of us wants to have happen! In this chapter, I’ll provide you with healthy alternatives to addictions. These require developing a mindful awareness of your triggers and a readiness to use the strategies I discuss, so you don’t impulsively act out when you’re stressed. Whether you periodically or regularly engage in addictive behaviors, your goal is to grow larger than your small, scared, addicted self and become a more empowered highly sensitive person. ALTERNATIVES TO SELF-MEDICATING: STRATEGIES AND SOLUTIONS Empaths need alternatives to self-medicating. A Twelve-Step Program is an important resource that supports people in staying clean and sober. For nearly three decades, I have been a member of Twelve-Step Programs, which have influenced my personal coping skills as an empath along with my teachings. In my first book, Second Sight, I describe how, as a teenage empath, I had premonitions that scared me and how I was overwhelmed by absorbing the energy of others. To shut off my sensitivities, I got heavily involved with drugs and alcohol. I was an introverted empath. So I used substances to become less anxious and more social with my friends and at parties, which decreased my feelings of not fitting in. At the time, I had no other skills for managing my overwhelming empathic abilities, intuition, and insecurities, so I reached for something external to shut them off. I had no idea what was happening to me, which is true of many empaths. With the buffer of drugs and alcohol, I could finally be in crowds with my friends without taking on other people’s energies. It was a relief: I felt normal. Of course, substances were not the answer. Fortunately, at those times in my life when I was on a destructive path and didn’t know how to help myself, divine guidance mercifully intervened. After the harrowing car accident I described in chapter 1, my parents were afraid for my life and forced me to see a psychiatrist. He taught me the importance of integrating all facets of myself—intellectual, emotional, physical, empathic, intuitive, and spiritual. And so my healing journey as an empath began. A basic part of this learning has taken place in Twelve-Step Programs. Self-Evaluation and Twelve-Step Programs Though not all alcoholics or addicts absorb other people’s energy, I’ve observed that many do. Unfortunately, many empaths remain undiagnosed and don’t realize how overstimulation and high sensitivity fuel their addictive behaviors. It’s therefore crucial to understand whether you’re coping with your sensitivities by engaging in addictions. How do you know? Ask yourself the following questions: •​Have I ever thought, “Life would be so much better if I didn’t overeat? Or drink?” •​Have I ever tried to stop overeating or using substances for a month but could only last a few days, despite my best intentions? •​Am I self-medicating to ease social anxiety or the stress I take on from the world? If you suspect you are using alcohol, drugs, food, or other addictive behaviors to manage the sensory overload of being an empath, take some time to reflect on how you cope by evaluating the following statements. SELF-ASSESSMENT​I turn to substances or other addictions when . . . •​I am overwhelmed by emotions, whether mine or another’s. •​I am in emotional pain and feel frustrated, anxious, or depressed. •​My feelings are hurt. •​I feel uncomfortable in my own skin. •​I can’t sleep. •​I feel emotionally unsafe in a situation. •​I feel criticized, blamed, or rejected. •​I feel shy, anxious, or don’t fit in socially. •​I’m isolating at home, and I need confidence to go out in public. •​I’m tired and need an energy boost. •​I feel drained by energy vampires. •​I want to escape and shut out the world. Here’s how to interpret this self-assessment: •​Answering yes to even one statement indicates that you sometimes turn to an addiction to cope with your sensitivities. •​Answering yes to two to five of the statements indicates you are moderately relying on an addiction to self-medicate feelings of sensory overload. •​Answering yes to six or more of the statements indicates you are largely coping with your sensitivities by engaging in addictive behavior.
    Orloff, Judith. The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People (pp. 57-61). Sounds True. Kindle Edition.
     
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    Med andra ord det är svårt med närhet från olika kulturer, religioner, medberoenden och annat. Blanda inte ihop medberoende med kärlek. Medberoendet är inte friskt. Kärlek är friskt. Du måste vara hel för att hitta kärleken. Det är ditt ansvar att bli … 
     
     
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    Vi alla spelar olika roller ivåra liv. Arketyper eller egon.Även om vi inte är skådesspelare på scenen så spelar vi alla våra egna roller i våra liv. De professionella har lärt sig olika verktyg som vi andra inte har.Men det är olika projiceringar som sker hela tiden mellan våra egna egon och omgivningen. Jag själv har dansat i många år, målat och gått på olika workshops,kurser, terapi, healing och har idag själv olika licenser.
    Det kan finnas en förståelse i regressionsanalys i Past life regression där du genom hypnosterapi hamnar i ett läge där det går att hitta nycklar till just ditt beteende med de erfarenheter du har från detta liv men även tidigare liv. Jag gör detta också efter jag sett vad du har för en sjukdomshistoria psykiskt eller fysiskt och gjort en bedömning att du klarar av detta utan att fastna i en tex psykos. Det är inte för alla att göra. En lättare version är en reading i tidigare liv där jag ställer vissa frågor som kan klargöra ditt beteende utan att du djupdyker i dig själv. annars KBT, NLP, counceilling, rådgivning, par terapi, sorgarbete. PTsd, medberoenden m m som jag kan hjälpa dig med.Jag har försäkring. Maila bara om du är seriös till info@piaalife.se. Det tar flera flera timmar för mig att bearbeta innan du påbörjar en behandling så jag debiterar för detta samt behandlingen.